Collaborative Conflict

[Paul Terlemezian]

Glenn Meier – Collaborative Conflict

 Website: https://glennmeier.com/

[Nicole Tooson]

Hi my name is Nicole Tooson. I am a sophomore at Brenau University. Do you think that the way in which people deal with conflict has anything to do with their upbringing or societal norms? If so, do you think that resolution looks different as well?

[Paul Terlemezian]

Yes - Nicole. I do think that the way we deal with conflict has much to do with our upbringing and societal norms and because of that I also think that resolution will look different. I choose to believe that relationship, trust, and commitment can be the foundation for a wide range of resolutions.

[Stephanie]

Hi, my name is Stephanie Flores. My question for you is: Do you believe conflict impacts one's work ethic, and if so, how does it apply to collaborative conflict?

[Paul Terlemezian]

Conflict may impact work ethic positively or negatively. If our reaction to conflict is fear or doubt it may have a negative impact. If our reaction is curiosity and growth it may have a positive impact. Our ambition is to work with each other (i.e., collaborate) to increase the potential for all to be open to curiosity and growth.

[Kalyne Bryant]

HI my name is Kalyne Bryant a senior at Brenau University. You used to be in the law firm but are not currently. When you were there, did you come by any parent/ child relationship collaborative conflict? If so, was it or not resolved and why?

[Georgina]

Hi, my name is Georgina Oropeza. I am a sophomore at Brenau University. The topic idea for my informative speech is going to be: Encouraging Dialogue for School Conflict Resolution. My question for you is: What are some effective conflict resolution techniques that students can implement in their day to day to improve the outcome of any conflict they may have in school, such as peer conflicts or disagreements with teachers?

[Paul Terlemezian]

Here are some thoughts regarding techniques:

1. Be open to learning - listen, understand - try to be patient.
2. Reflect on why the situation might be bothering you. Think positive thoughts and allow a sincere (not sarcastic) smile emerge. This actually causes your brain to work better.
3. Use the improved brain function to find common (often higher) ground.

When using this with someone that you perceive may have more power or authority it is best to consider a "one down" approach - be open to learning from the other what they wish you would do to avoid conflict in the future. Don't expect them to respond and ask from you - but if they do - respond with kindness. It can be difficult for some people to be vulnerable.